Sunday, August 31, 2014

T minus 17 Hours

New Oakland shirts!
Boxes are packed, trips to Goodwill have been made, Craigslist sales have been completed, and moving truck is sitting on the road. I even held Evelyn and read a book for half an hour today. In true Royal fashion we are having some friends over for one last dinner in this kitchen tonight...using paper plates and borrowed silverware. The movers will be here tomorrow at 0800 and Daniel will help while they load the truck and I take the kids out to a final Oakland breakfast. I guess this means we are closing an exciting chapter of our lives and beginning a new one!

Last Sunday at our beloved church calls for fancy dresses and big yellow bows!
"Goodbye Oakland"
Testing out the Moving Truck
Spending a lot of time getting carried while Mom packs boxes
The best part of moving is finishing off the cherries from the refrigerator

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Why Our Kids are Awesome

There is so much I have already forgotten from the last few years and I want to remember these days...both the blissful and the tough. So here's a post written for myself. Feel free to eavesdrop.

The period of mid July through mid August was difficult as far as parenting is concerned. Capper and Anellah had ganged up on us as parents and were doing their best to "innocently" make our lives as difficult as possible. I say "innocently" because they weren't being blatantly disobedient, but just disobedient and sneaky enough to be extremely frustrating. Rather than playing with toys it seemed they were getting into everything OTHER than toys. Things that wouldn't really matter if it happened once or twice but when it was incessant toy-avoidance it got old quickly. Then there was bedtime, they weren't "bad" per se, they just stayed up laughing and giggling for HOURS after being put to bed. To the point where they were still up when we would go to bed. Needless to say this made for tired kids the next day. There were other times where they would do sneaky things that Anellah knew they shouldn't be doing but she acted as if she didn't when confronted; the only way we were sure she "knew better" was that she tried to hide her actions when she heard Daniel or I coming. The icing on the cake was when we received some medical equipment for Anellah's glucose sensor and I let the kids open the box then got distracted doing something else for a minute before a friend came to graciously bring us dinner. Suddenly I realized it was too quiet and when I called upstairs, "are you being obedient or naughty?" the answer I received was, "naughty." Upon entering their room I witnessed over $100 of medical supplies ($400+ without insurance) had been injected into a stuffed animal as they giggled and "played doctor." That was the tipping point, I walked out of their room seeing red and knowing that I would regret anything I said or did to them in that moment. Daniel addressed the situation and I cried. We talked about actions after that and they cried to see me cry. It was a mess!! But life itself is a mess and as Glennon over at Momastery says, this was some of the "messy-beautiful." Because in that moment my kids saw a part of me they hadn't seen before. A part of me that was intensely real. And guess what, since that day (August 13th to be exact) we've had more fun together. They've had more fun with each other, and we have all learned a lot.

So part of the reason why our kids are awesome is because they can take that, the raw frustration of their Mom. Also because they teach me every day to stop being so distracted, be creative by making something that is "not a toy" something fun, and that I CAN be patient and forgiving and move past something that seems like such a "big deal" in the moment only to look back and realize it wasn't all that important.

My favorite reason why our kids are awesome, however, is that they are sweet, smart, creative, and hilarious! I wanted to write a blog post about these aspects so I can remember them in the future.

Anellah, our Creative Creature: Lately she has been pretending to be a "creature" of one sort or another. Sometimes she is a cat, other times a bee, other times a chicken, other times a spider, and other times, "no I'm just a creature." She sings and dances at least hourly. The way I know she is awake in the morning is because she begins her day with a song. Earlier today she was composing a new song on the piano first by playing a few notes over and over and then by adding "words." Nevermind that the words were gibberish, I'm sure they were better than a lot of lyrics out there. She has never met a stranger, I'm constantly reminding her that she needs to give people their space rather than sitting on the lap of a person she's never met. The other day I had to tell her it wasn't appropriate to give a kiss to every person in the waiting room at the dentist office as she'd announced to me she was about to do. She HAS been known to go around giving a sticker to each person in a waiting room however. She also shares with others, especially Capper. Whether it is her food, her toys, or her time she is (almost) always willing to give to him. She is in love with her baby sister and likes to hold her. The other day they sat together for an hour, both of them content just to be with each other. She can be pretty funny at times too, like two days ago when our count-down paper chain broke and she announced, "Oops, I guess we have to go to our new house now!"

Capper the Crack-up: He has been exceptionally cute and hilarious lately. One day we were talking about how Anellah's tooth fell out and he piped up, "my tonsils came out!"He's also been, "packing for Washington" which includes grabbing a box or suitcase and filling it with shirts, undies, night-time pull-ups, and his favorite toothbrush. Then he puts on his shoes (usually while only wearing undies) and announces, "I have my shoes on, I'm ready to go!" At our recent "Go Away Party" he kept his clothes on for about an hour before he decided that he should be comfortable, after all the party was for him right? So he stripped down to simply underwear. He too has a very sweet side and absolutely adores his sisters. But mostly he adores his older sister whom he will play with for hours. When we are in public he is always keeping tabs on her and if he can't find her he asks, "where Anellah go?" He is loving this summer since they get to spend it together all day and night.


Sweet Baby Evelyn: she is peaceful and beautiful. Photos really don't do her justice. God knew we needed a baby who liked riding in the car since we are driving to Fall City so he gave us her. We are thankful and feel blessed to have such a wonderful baby girl.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Halfway Point

Evelyn is almost 2 1/2 weeks old which means we have 2 1/2 weeks until we move. Remarkably it hasn't felt like much of a scramble. In fact most "moving" preparations were on hold for the first couple weeks of Evelyn's life. We are starting to get back into the swing of planning but nothing extremely intense.
Currently we are kicked back in an armchair with the laptop
Evelyn, aka Baby Evie, aka Lil Haze, aka The Baby, is doing well. She  spends most of her day sleeping, eating, pooping, and hoping not to be forgotten. We are pretty sure she knows she is a third child since she is a little over-achiever in the realm of "good babies." She is a joy and her older siblings continue to be enamored with her.

















Daniel has been taking a fair amount of time off work although he will be working this weekend (Friday, Saturday, and Sunday). It will be the first time that I am home alone with the kids since my parents were here for the first week and a half.

We are still waiting to hear back with a final offer and start date for Daniel's job in Seattle His case should be assigned this week at which point an investigator will review his paperwork and hopefully within four weeks he will have a new security clearance. Once the clearance is in place, Department of State will extend a final offer.

We have a place to live lined up in Fall City, WA and are in the process of signing lease paperwork. The house is small (2 bedroom) but we will be neighbors with my parents so the location couldn't be better! We will also be close to our property where we plan to build which will be nice and hopefully enable us to do a lot of the work ourselves.

Thinking about saying "final" goodbyes to our friends here in California is hard. We have an amazing support system (as evidenced by all the delicious dinners we've been receiving recently!) whom we will miss dearly. It is hard to imagine not spending time with the friends whom we love and who have supported us as our family has grown from the two of us to a family of five! It is also hard to imagine not being a part of their lives; knowing that our children won't grow up together. God has blessed us through relationships here and we look forward to new relationships in a new state but know we will always hold our California relationships dear.

On that note I'll leave you with a video of Capper eating popcorn like a dog while dancing (like a dog)...because it's just ridiculous.


Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Happy Birthday Evelyn!

Evelyn (my maternal great grandmother) Hazel (Lindsey's paternal great grandmother's name) Royal was welcomed into the world of air-breathing creatures on July 29th at 1:41AM.


After a slight roller coaster ride during the day wherein, during Lindsey's weekly appointment, the doctor was concerned that the baby was breech or transverse.  Our day ended knowing that she was head down so we collected our kids, were relieved a mandatory c-section wasn't in order, and headed home.

By 10PM on July 28th everyone in the house was fast asleep, with the exception of Lindsey who was experiencing increasingly strong contractions.  At midnight I was awoken into a confused stupor by an extremely pregnant wife  (who had agreed to let me sleep all night if possible).  After she explained to me a few times that it wasn't time for me to go to work I managed to slip into a time-sensitive reality.

Lindsey had progressed rapidly and our friend, Nicole, was on her way to relieve us of our sleeping "angels".  We made it to the hospital, passed multiple unconcerned employees, up three stories, and to the nursing station where Lindsey collapsed in pain which finally prompted a response.   In Room 24 (where Capper made his first appearance) Lindsey's water broke at 1:17.  At 1:41 Evelyn Hazel arrived.



There hadn't been time for admission, drugs, or even pleasantries.  Luckily her doctor must live close by, because she made it five minutes before the grand finale!

17 hours after we arrived at the hospital we were all home (because Lindsey is excessively resilient and strong willed). Anellah and Capper are in love, Anellah especially is extremely enamored and concerned with "Baby Sister's" every need and desire.

Our Family of Happy and Healthy Monsters
And since you all want a video of a baby doing nothing....here you go!


Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Home Already!

The surgery went extremely smoothly and I was surprised to discover we didn't have to stay overnight! In fact, we were home for the afternoon and I even took a nap. In fact, everyone in the family except the surgery patient took a nap today. Anellah and I came home to discover this.

Waking up from anesthesia was hard and scary for Anellah but the nurses were able to give her morphine to sedate her again and she woke up calm the second time around. Whereas the first time Anellah was screaming that she wanted to go home and prying at her IV to remove it, when she woke up the second time she said she wanted to stay in the hospital and would not part with her IV. I had to bribe her to let the nurse take the IV out by telling her she couldn't ride in a wheelchair until it was removed.

We had talked about the bandage she would have on her head but, since the procedure was done by a plastic surgeon who is pretty concerned about aesthetics, she doesn't even have one!! He said he didn't want to wrap her whole head so just didn't put a bandage on at all. Instead the incision and sutures are covered with clear glue called Dermabond.

Upon returning home Anellah made sure I remembered my promises that people who have surgery get to eat lots of special treats and watch TV as much as they want. First request was rainbow pancakes followed by a popsicle.
Kicked back playing LeapPad in between TV shows
She seemed to feel well most of the day once home though she did complain of some pain in the early evening. Ibuprofen did the trick and she is back to herself now pretending to make a nest out of blankets and telling me she is, "a girl named Tom."
Time for a tea party!






Surgery Green Light!

Looking at my posts it is strange to think that my biggest concern before surgeries is that they will actually happen. I'm becoming more and more convinced that anyone with a medically complex child can relate to this stress but I assume looking at it from a typical parents perspective, it seems a bit superficial. Don't I care about how the surgery goes? Don't I care about recovery? Yes, I do, but ironically those factors feel a little more predictable to me.


Despite arriving at the hospital before 6:00am just to run around to multiple locations since nobody seemed to know what we were supposed to be doing (remember, nothing is straight forward when it comes to Anellah's medical care) Anellah is finally in surgery as I type.

As I mentioned on July 5th, this should be a relatively simple procedure. Just a small incision on her scalp, removal of a titanium plate (I said screw before but that was wrong), and stitch back up. I was under the impression she would not be staying overnight although last week at her pre-op appointments I was told she would be. I'll know soon which is true!

Anellah's hematologist (blood doctor) has been wanting to do a study of her bone marrow to ensure that her low blood component levels are, as we assume, related to her liver rather than a problem with production. It wasn't urgent enough to warrant its own anesthesia so we were able to add this quick procedure on to today's schedule. I am very thankful her hematologist brought this up yesterday and although this last minute addition was part of the reason we had to wait an extra hour before going to the operating room, waiting an hour is definitely better than another hospital admission for this simple test.
In preparation for surgery we bought a couple extra LeapPad games.

So now let's get to the good stuff. Anellah, despite all of our running back and forth, has been in a great mood which makes everything 50 times easier! She hustled from place to place and kept saying, "I'm ready for my poke!" when we were trying to get to the lab to get her blood drawn this morning. She has her special bunny with her and performed all sorts of tests on bunny this morning while we were waiting in the pre-op area. You will be happy to know that bunny's blood pressure, temperature, and oxygen level are all within normal limits. :) Also Bunny did not cry when she had her poke. When it was time to head to the Operating Room Anellah pranced right in with her bunny in her arm saying hello to the doctors and nurses.
Bunny's turn to be the patient!
And while Anellah and I are here, Capper is driving a ferry through San Francisco Bay.

Monday, July 14, 2014

Surgery Tomorrow

It appears we are still on track for surgery tomorrow. I did find out at our pre-op appointments last Thursday that Anellah will be staying overnight in the hospital so that extends the entire surgery process a bit, however I'm just glad we haven't hit any roadblocks yet.

Insurance authorization is in place, pre-op appointments are completed, specific orders from specialists are obtained, baby girl seems to be content to stay in utero for a bit longer, and NOBODY IN OUR FAMILY HAS A COLD! It doesn't seem like having a cold is a very big deal and normally colds don't really slow us down but when you are preparing for pediatric surgery just slight sniffles can send everything to a screeching halt.

Thank you for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers. I will update you tomorrow after the procedure to let you know how it goes.